Great drinks are only half the bar experience—the other half is how you behave. Whether you’re a casual cocktail fan or a regular at your neighborhood spot, knowing the unspoken rules of bar culture can make or break your night. We asked bartenders and hospitality pros to share the etiquette mistakes that drive them crazy, plus tips on how to earn favorite-regular status without trying too hard.
Top 10 Bar Etiquette Mistakes (According to Bartenders)
- Waving or snapping to get attention
Bartenders see you. If they’re busy, be patient—they’ll get to you as soon as they can. - Ordering while on your phone
It’s rude, and it slows down the line. Step up, give your full attention, then step back to text. - Not knowing what you want
During peak hours, have your order (and payment method) ready. If you need a recommendation, ask during a lull. - Asking for “something strong” with no other input
Be specific. Tell them your spirit of choice, flavor preference, or a cocktail you usually enjoy. - Taking over multiple stools
If you’re solo, stick to one. Don’t drape coats and bags across three seats at a busy bar. - Reaching behind the bar
Whether it’s grabbing a napkin or sliding your glass forward, don’t invade the bar space. Always ask first. - Skipping the tip
Tip at least 20% or $1–$2 per drink at the bar. If it’s happy hour or a discounted tab, tip on the original value. - Tapping your glass or bar top
This gesture is considered rude and passive-aggressive in most bar cultures. Just wait your turn. - Holding up the line with complex group orders
Split tabs at the beginning or nominate one person to order—especially if it’s a busy night. - Lingering long after paying
Bars often need to turn seats. If you’re done, close out and offer your seat to the next guest during peak hours.
How to Order Like a Pro
- Make eye contact and nod instead of shouting
- Use “please” and “thank you”—bartenders remember manners
- Be specific: “I’ll take a gin and tonic with Tanqueray, no lime” is better than “whatever’s good”
- Close your tab before the bar gets slammed again, or ask to keep it open if you’re staying longer
How to Become a Bar Regular (Without Being a Cliché)
- Go on quieter nights like Monday or Tuesday to strike up conversation
- Tip consistently, not just when trying to impress
- Ask for bartender recs and actually try them
- Respect the staff’s time—don’t overstay or monopolize attention
- Bring friends and introduce them by name; regulars build community
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